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Understanding a Passive Husband during Conflict

June 10, 2015 by


Sometimes, being a passive husband, I sit back and think about just how hard it must be for my wife to understand me.  I have so many quirky things about my personality and the way I communicate that in all reality probably do not make sense.  For many things, I react very much under the […]

Serving Up Unconditional Respect

April 16, 2015 by


Back when I first started this blog I wrote a post on the topic of unconditional respect.  That post came about as I was reading Shaunti Feldhahn’s book, For Women Only.  I have been going through the book Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and thought it would be a good time to return […]

The Ides of Marriage: Ideals, Idle Time, and Idols

March 26, 2015 by


You are probably familiar with the Ides of March.  In the Roman calendar they split up each month into three sections.  Each month had the Kalends (1st of the month), Nones (5th to 7th day of the month), and the Ides (13th to 15th day of the month corresponding to the full moon).  So, each […]

Why Do We Argue?

March 18, 2015 by


A wife asks a simple question.  Maybe something like, “Could you finish that work on the deck soon?” Her husband responds, “I will see if I can get to it,…maybe this weekend.” Things probably would have been fine at this point, but then the wife feels the need to respond back with something like, “You […]

Why does it seem like I am so good at respecting my wife but lousy at loving her?

March 10, 2015 by


I have tried to portray that I have a generally passive personality.  I am very patient.  I don’t talk anymore than I have to.  I don’t really like to get into situations where there is much conflict or “noise.”  I get energized by working independently and work to accomplish my goals in a very logical […]

Building Momentum in Your Life

March 3, 2015 by


How many times have you watched a football game and one team gets up by around 10 to 14 points late in the third quarter and starts to play not to lose?  They go into a prevent defense and then on offense start calling some very safe running plays to try to take some time […]

Beyond the Storefront Window: What Men Fear

February 24, 2015 by


I was on the way to church this weekend and I heard a song on the radio that caught my attention.  I can’t remember the name of the song but one of the verses talked about how fear, anxiety, and guilt were keeping the songwriter from being the man he wanted to be.  I think […]

Hope for Second Marriages

February 12, 2015 by


We have been looking at The Good News About Marriage by Shaunti Feldhahn and finding that there is a lot of misinformation out there about actual divorce rates.  We have already seen that the widely reported 1 out of every 2 marriages end in divorce statistic in reality is more like 1 out of every […]

Church Does a Marriage Good!

February 10, 2015 by


In the last several posts, I have been looking at a lot of data from Shaunti Feldhahn’s, The Good News About Marriage.  I have been throwing out a lot of statistics, and that won’t change today, that I think show a much brighter picture for marriages than we have been led to believe.  The goal […]

Are you Happy in your Marriage?

February 3, 2015 by


At the start of the year, my wife asked me if I thought the last year was our best year ever. I thought for a minute and then I said, “No, I wouldn’t say that.” She returned with, “Why would you say that?  We have a ton of things to be thankful for.” I said, […]

There’s Hope for Marriage: Fact Finding

January 27, 2015 by


Could it be that marriage has been piled on in the media to the point that marriage is not cool anymore?  It might seem like if you take the plunge to get married you are getting on a sinking ship.  As we talked about in my last post, I have been reading Shaunti Feldhahn’s, The […]

There’s Hope for Marriages

January 23, 2015 by


It seems like everything you hear about marriage is bad these days.  You have probably heard that 1 out of every 2 marriages ends in divorce.  You may have even heard that the number is about the same whether the couple is active in church or not.  I may have even talked about those statistics […]