365 More Ways to Love Your Wife

Posted on 10/09/2012 by

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So, after going through the 101 Ways to Love Your Wife series last week I challenged you to come up with some additional ways to show your wife you love her. So, I decided to collect those and do a little research and put up an exhaustive list of ways to love your wife. Remember that these are not meant to be “Ways to Feel Guilty about What I Don’t Do For My Wife” or “I Must Be Really Lazy in My Marriage”, but just some things to think about and see if there are some ways that you can show your wife that you love her that you may be missing. I think you will find that a lot of the ways are actually pretty easy. So, now I present to you 365 More Ways to Love Your Wife.

A reader sent in the following ways and I want to list his first. These come from Jeffrey Leong.

  1. Text message during the day to say you’re thinking of her.
  2. Listen to her and don’t be quick to fix.
  3. Pray with and/or for her.
  4. Wash her car without telling her.
  5. Let her go out on her own without the kids for the night.

Another reader added the following couple of ways. These come from David Myers. As an ex-husband, David has some advice for us that comes from his experience. I think it is good that we all let our spouses know that divorce is not an option in our relationship and it should never be used as a threat.

  1. Let her know, even if you’re having serious, serious difficulty in your marriage that you think she has significant responsibility for (disrespect, sexual refusal, ungracious/unloving/unforgiving responses to your failures, etc.), that YOU’RE NOT LEAVING. Whether it would actually have made any difference or not, I wish I had consistently made it clear that I wasn’t going anywhere, even temporarily.
  2. From another man in our church men’s group, start the difficult conversations with her by saying something to the effect, “I love you and I’m committed to this relationship.” You may know that, and you may know that you’re bringing up the difficult topic because you want to improve the marriage, but she may (does?) need to hear reassurance that whatever the disagreement is it’s not a threat to the marriage itself. Again, something I wish I’d done.

The next list comes from www.marriagemissions.com and gives 100 Ways to Show Love to Your Wife HER Way. If you haven’t visited Marriage Missions before it is a great resource for marriage instruction.

1. Start and/or end each day by holding hands and praying together with your wife.
2. Pray for her every day and make it a point to pray with her when she is troubled.
3. Communicate with her instead of talking AT her or shutting her out emotionally.
4. Talk to her respectfully without demeaning her or hurting her feelings.
5. Compliment her for the giftedness you see in her. Be specific.
6. Show interest in her friends and give her time to be with them.
7. Do something active together to lift her spirit —even taking a walk hand-in-hand.
8. Express to her that you need and value her.
9. Show enthusiasm for the things that she’s excited about—let your actions show it.
10. Find something that makes you laugh together.
11. Put your arms around her when she needs comfort, holding her silently.
12. Surprise her by doing something you think she would want done before she asks.
13. Try not to make sudden changes without discussing them with her first.
14. Show interest in that which she values as important in her life.
15. Allow your wife to teach you things without being defensive.
16. When you feel you must correct her, be gentle —speak the truth in LOVE.
17. Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. (Dave Ramsey)
18. Show her that she matters more to you than any one you could be with, that threatens her security in your marriage.
19. Be a good listener. Show her you value what she says.
20. Plan a mini-honeymoon, where the two of you can spend quality time together.
21. Go shopping with her and don’t sigh or look at what time it is even once.
22. Take her out to breakfast or make her breakfast (cleaning up afterward).
23. Make the time to set specific goals with her to achieve together for each year.
24. Give her grace when she offends you and forgive (even as you want to be forgiven).
25. Find ways to help her know you are her partner in all areas life.
26. Be polite, courteous, and mannerly with her—not taking her for granted.
27. Exhibit humility, admit your mistakes, and ask for forgiveness. She’ll appreciate that!
28. Defend her to others—especially to your family.
29. Don’t belittle her intelligence.
30. Scratch her back, rub her feet, or her rub her neck—whatever she’d prefer.
31. Get up in the middle of the night (let her stay in bed) to take care of your upset child.
32. Be especially helpful when she is not feeling well.
33. When she asks how your day went, don’t just say “fine” —actually give her details.
34. Thank God for her by name when the two of you are praying together.
35. Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.
36. Don’t embarrass her by arguing with her in front of others.
37. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God. This is important to her.
38. Make eye contact when she is talking to you and when you are talking with her.
39. Show her that you prefer her to others—give her your attention whenever possible.
40. Relate what happened at work or whatever you did apart from her.
41. Keep away from anything that gives you sexual gratification, other than your wife.
42. Be helpful, both before and during the time you have visitors in your home. (If you’re not sure of what to do, ask your wife “What can I do that would help the most?”)
43. Brag about her to others, both in front of her and when she is not with you.
44. Surprise her from time-to-time with a card and flowers or a little gift.
45. Remember to tell her or call her as soon as you know you are going to be late.
46. Give her your undivided attention when she wants to talk.
47. Guard your tongue from saying “unwholesome words” or down-grading her.
48. Refuse to compare her unfavorably with others.
49. Encourage her to relax in some way while you clean up after dinner.
50. Be an involved partner in helping with the children and spending time together.
51. Maintain good grooming habits so you look and smell good. It shows you care.
52. Be supportive. Help her to finish her education and goals that are important to her.
53. View and treat her as if God put a sign over her that said, “Make me feel special.”
54. Run errands without complaining.
55. Give her the love gift of being thoughtful and considerate to her relatives.
56. Don’t negatively compare her relatives with yours.
57. Sit close to her —even when you are just watching television.
58. Be verbally supportive and honor her in front of the children.
59. Do not making plans without her agreeing with them (unless it’s a surprise).
60. Pro-actively do things that makes her feel cherished as a woman and as a wife.
61. Keep her trust at all costs. Leave no gray area when it comes to other female relationships, money and your word. (Dave Ramsey)
62. Ask for a list of 3 things she’d like done in the home. Prioritize to do them ASAP.
63. Ask her and then listen to what makes her fearful and insecure (without judging).
64. Pray about and act upon what you can do to alleviate those fears.
65. Find out what her sexual needs are (and then try to fulfill them).
66. Surprise her with a 15 second kiss (with no expectations to go any further).
67. Put effort in to keep yourself in good shape so she’s especially proud to be with you.
68. Make it a point to write a mission statement together for your marriage and family.
69. Take the time to touch every day—even if it’s only for a minute or two.
70. Be polite and kind. (Often we’re kinder to strangers than we are to our spouse.)
71. Be sensitive enough to ask her if you offend or hurt her sexually in any way.
72. Go out of your way to help her feel valued over everyone else.
73. Consider her as your marital partner in how you spend money.
74. You dated your wife before marriage, and fell in love. Date her now to STAY in love.
75. Be careful to choose your words, especially when angry.
76. Show affection for her in front of friends.
77. Make sure your children speak to her and treat her in respectful ways.
78. Make a point of honoring anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions.
79. Make sure she has money to spend any way she would choose.
80. Hold her close and verbally express your love when she is hurt or discouraged.
81. Surprise her by giving her a special gift from time to time.
82. Share the responsibilities around the house (without looking for special recognition).
83. Don’t tease and belittle her, saying “I was just joking” when she doesn’t find it funny.
84. Allow her to express herself freely, without fear of being called illogical or dumb.
85. Don’t forget to hold her hand in public like you used to when you dated her.
86. Don’t criticize her in front of others—keeping her dignity intact.
87. Don’t focus on the physical features of another woman (It dishonors your wife).
88. Be sensitive to her needs—looking for ways to bless her.
89. Let her know you want to spend special time with her and the children.
90. Fix dinner for her sometimes.
91. Be sympathetic when she’s sick—and help her however you can.
92. Let her sleep in sometimes and you get the children ready for the day.
93. Honor her by not disagreeing with her in front of the children.
94. Don’t ignore the small things that bother her and let them build into bigger issues.
95. Surprise her by doing some things around the house that she’s wanted done.
96. Tell her (and show her) you love her often.
97. Call, email or text her when you’re apart so she knows you are thinking of her.
98. Surprise her by suggesting a marriage seminar or weekend retreat you can attend together.
99. Express your love and appreciation for her in a love note which you give to her.
100. Show her affection without sexual intentions.

The next 100 I found comes from www.Romancebetweenthelines.com and I thought had some good tips as well for making your wife feel loved.

1. Communicate with her; never close her out.
2. Regard her as important.
3. Do everything you can to understand her feelings.
4. Be interested in her friends.
5. Ask her opinion frequently.
6. Value what she says.
7. Let her feel your approval and affection.
8. Protect her on a daily basis.
9. Be gentle and tender with her.
10. Develop a sense of humor.
11. Avoid sudden major changes without discussion and without giving her time to adjust.
12. Learn to respond openly and verbally when she wants to communicate.
13. Comfort her when she’s down emotionally. Put your arms around her & hold her.
14. Be interested in what she feels is important in life.
15. Correct her gently and tenderly.
16. Allow her to teach you without putting up your defenses.
17. Make special time available to her and your children.
18. Be trustworthy.
19. Compliment her often.
20. Be creative when you express your love, either in words or actions.
21. Have specific family goals for each year.
22. Let her buy things she considers necessary.
23. Be forgiving when she offends you.
24. Show her you need her.
25. Accept her the way she is; discover her uniqueness as special.
26. Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble.
27. Defend her to others.
28. Allow your wife to fail; discuss what went wrong after you’ve comforted her.
29. Rub her feet or neck after a hard day.
31. Go on romantic outings.
32. Write her a letter occasionally, telling her how much you love her.
33. Surprise her with a card or flowers.
34. Express how proud you are of her.
35. Tell her how much you appreciate her.
36. Give advice in a loving way when she asks for it.
37. Lead your family in their spiritual relationship with God.
38. Prefer her to others.
39. Don’t expect her to enjoy god’s best in life.
40. Pray for her to enjoy God’s best in life.
41. Take time to notice what she has done for you and the family.
42. Brag about her to other people behind her back.
43. Share your thoughts and feelings with her.
44. Tell her about your job, if she’s interested.
45. Take time to see how she spends her day, at work or at home.
46. Take care of the kids before dinner.
47. Learn to enjoy what she enjoys.
48. Help straighten up the house before mealtime.
49. Let her take a bubble bath while you do the dishes.
50. Understand her physical limitations if you have several children.
51. Discipline the children in love, not anger.
52. Help her finish her goals, hobbies or education.
53. Treat her as if God had stamped on her forehead, “Handle with Care”.
54. Get rid of habits that annoy her.
55. Be gentle and thoughtful to her relatives.
56. Don’t compare her relatives with yours in a negative way.
57. Thank her for things she has done without expecting anything in return.
58. Don’t expect a band to play whenever you help with the housecleaning.
59. Make sure she understands everything you’re planning to do.
60. Do little things for her—an unexpected kiss, coffee in bed.
61. Treat her as an intellectual equal.
62. Find out if she wants to be treated as physically weaker.
63. Discover her fears in life.
64. See what you can do to eliminate those fears.
65. Discover her sexual needs.
66. Ask if she wants to discuss how you can meet her sexual needs.
67. Find out what makes her insecure.
68. Plan your future together.
69. Don’t quarrel over words, but try to find hidden meanings.
70. Practice common courtesies like holding the door for her, pouring her coffee.
71. Ask her if you offend her sexually in any way.
72. Ask if she’s jealous of anyone.
73. See if she’s uncomfortable about the way money is spent.
74. Take her on dates now and then.
75. Hold her hand in public.
76. Put your arm around her in front of friends.
77. Tell her you love her often.
78. Remember anniversaries, birthdays, and other special occasions.
79. Learn to enjoy shopping.
80. Teach her to hunt and fish or whatever you enjoy doing.
81. Give her a special gift from time to time.
82. Share the responsibilities around the house.
83. Don’t belittle her feminine characteristics.
84. Let her express herself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical.
85. Carefully choose your words, especially when angry.
86. Don’t criticize her in front of other.
87. Don’t let her see you become excited about the physical features of another woman.
88. Be sensitive to other people.
89. Let your family know you want to spend special time with them.
90. Fix dinner for her from time to time.
91. Be sympathetic when she’s sick.
92. Call her when you’re going to be late.
93. Don’t disagree with her in front of the children.
94. Take her out to dinner and for weekend getaways.
95. Do the “little things” she needs from time to time.
96. Give her special time alone with her friends.
97. Buy her what she considers an intimate gift.
98. Read a book she recommends to you.
99. Give her engraved plaque assuring her of your lasting love.
100. Write her a poem about how special she is.

Here are 25 ways from http://www.alltruthisgodstruth.wordpress.com. This list was compiled by Doug Flanders and is also a good site to visit along with his wife, Jennifer Flanders blog. Doug gives us some very practical and very thought provoking advice at the same time.

  1. Listen
    To be truly heard is the longing of every human heart, and your wife is no exception. It sounds simple, but listening can be harder than it seems with so many distractions around us and within us. Set aside some time every day to look into your wife’s eyes and really listen to what she has to say. You may be surprised at what you hear. (James 1:19, Matthew 11:15)
  2. Communicate
    Don’t make her guess what you are thinking or feeling.
  3. Sing Her Praises
    Shamelessly brag about her good qualities and quietly pray about her bad ones. Her reputation is your reputation. (Proverbs 31:28-29)
  4. Pray For Her and With Her
    Praying on your wife’s behalf not only enlists the help of the Almighty, but also puts her and her needs at the forefront of your heart and mind, right where they belong. Praying alongside your wife will strengthen your relationship like nothing else. Studies show that couples who regularly pray together stay together, enjoying a 1% divorce rate compared to the usual rate of 50% or more. (Philippians 4:6; Matthew 18:19)
  5. Value Her Individuality
    Your wife is wonderfully unique. Don’t compare her to your mom, or your ex-wife, or your old girlfriend. Your mom may make the best chocolate chip cookies in the world, but unfavorable comparisons won’t win you brownie points.
  6. Put the Seat Down
    Perpetually raised toilet seats are a pet peeve of wives everywhere. And while you’re at it, tidy up a bit. A little consideration goes a long way. (Philippians 2:4)
  7. Throw Your Dirty Clothes in the Hamper
    It’s likely just a few steps from wherever you are dropping them anyway. Make this a habit, and it will let your wife know your don’t consider her your personal maid.
  8. Turn Off the T.V.
    Lay aside the video games, pocket the iPhone, and shut off the computer, as well. It is staggering how many hours we waste gazing at some sort of screen instead of interacting with the real people in our lives. Consciously set limits on your tube-time, whatever form it takes. Use the time saved to invest in your marriage: take a walk with your wife or play a board game together instead. (Psalm 90:12)
  9. Loosen the Purse Strings
    We all have to keep an eye on our budget, but an occasional splurge can be well worth it. Seemingly frivolous things like flowers, jewelry, and overpriced restaurants let her know that she is more valuable to you than a number in your bank account.
  10. Practice Servant-Leadership
    All organizations have a hierarchy. It’s impossible to function without one, but being a leader isn’t the same as being a dictator. The best role model is Jesus Christ, not Joseph Stalin. Jesus washed his disciples’ feet and then died on their behalf. It’s a challenge to exercise authority while maintaining a spirit of humility, but that is what being a godly leader entails. (Matthew 20:28, Philippians 2:1-8; Mark 9:35)
  11. Remember that Intimacy’s a Two-Way Street
    Unfortunately, men are notoriously selfish in the bedroom, yet are dumbfounded when their wives are less than enthusiastic in this arena. Make this area of your relationship as pleasurable for her as it is for you and it will pay huge dividends. It may mean washing the dishes or helping with the kids, so that she has energy left at the end of the day. It may mean cuddling and candlelight, so that she can relax and let the worries on her mind drift away. If you aren’t sure where to begin, just ask her, and then listen. (1 Corinthians 7:3)
  12. Give Her Time to Herself
    Everyone needs an occasional break to rest and recharge, and this is especially important for a wife who is at home all day with young children. Yet it’s very easy to neglect this legitimate need unless you regularly and intentionally schedule time for it. (Luke 5:16)
  13. Set Aside Couple Time
    Soak in the tub together each evening or go on a date night once a week — whatever gets the two of you alone on a regular basis. (Genesis 2:24-25)
  14. Be Careful with Female Friendships
    We all have friends and colleagues of the opposite sex, but tread cautiously. Not all affairs are physical ones. Honoring your marriage vows means remaining faithful in thought and word as well as in deed. (Matthew 5:27-28)
  15. Use Good Hygiene
    It is amazing how meticulous guys can be prior to marriage in their attempts to impress a girl, but once they walk down the aisle, all bets are off. Clean up a little; I promise it won’t kill you.
  16. Limit the Gross Stuff
    Few women find burping and farting nearly as hilarious as the typical guy does. Good manners are always a win. (Ephesians 5:4)
  17. Be Patient
    In whatever way this applies to you and your situation, apply it. (1 Corinthians 13:4, Proverbs 14:29)
  18. Cherish Her Children
    A mother’s bond to her children runs immeasurably deep. When you invest time or energy in them, you are investing in her as well. Kindness to them counts as kindness to her. (Malachi 4:6)
  19. Choose Her Over Hobbies and Buddies
    Invariably there will come times in your relationship when you will be forced to choose between your wife and something else that you enjoy. Always choose her.
  20. Provide for Her Needs
    This is so much more than just putting food on the table. It is all-encompassing. Whether it is physical needs, emotional needs, spiritual needs, you name it — do your best to provide. Sometimes life’s circumstances hinder us in one area, but we can compensate in another area. Often the effort is as important as the outcome. (Galatians 6:2)
  21. Dial Down the Anger
    Your caveman instincts are handy on the battlefield, but horrible for a happy home life. Every outburst or flare-up is a relationship setback. To go forward, the first step is to stop going backwards. Learn to control your temper or it will control you, your marriage, and every other aspect of your life. Just because your wife puts up with it and your co-workers tolerate it, doesn’t make your short fuse an asset. Do whatever it takes to gain victory in this all-important struggle that has haunted man since Cain slew Abel. (Ecclesiastes 7:9, Ephesians 4:31)
  22. Cut Out the Condescension
    If you have been blessed with a quick wit, you can either be the life of the party or a pain in the neck depending on the circumstances. Condescension is anger’s younger brother. It isn’t as loud or as dramatic, but it can be equally hurtful and all the more so for its subtlety. Lay off the snide remarks, the sarcasm, and the belittling. Speak to your wife in the same way that you would speak to a respected colleague. She is, after all, your partner in the most valuable investment of your life — your family.(, (Ephesians 4:29, Colossians 3:19)
  23. Actively Seek Your Wife’s Insights
    Value her input and give it a preferential place in your decision-making process. (Proverbs 19:20; 12:15)
  24. Learn to Forgive
    Freely forgive your wife’s past, present, and future offenses. Forgiveness is at the heart of the gospel and at the heart of every meaningful relationship. (Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:13)
  25. Verbally Express Your Love
    There are lots of ways to show your love, but women still like to hear it spoken.

In the book, He Said, She Said: Candid Conversations about the Making of a Great Marriage, Bill & Anabel Gillham listed the top twenty ways women finish this statement:

I wish my husband would love me by…

  1. Listening to me.
  2. Taking my “petty problems” seriously.
  3. Communicating more openly with me.
  4. Noticing me more – not just when he wants sex.
  5. Saying “thank you” for the things I do.
  6. Being interested in my life … at least acting like you are interested.
  7. Showing affection when other people are around.
  8. Sharing his goals and values with me, talking his business over with me.
  9. Remembering me with little gifts or just planning an evening out every so often.
  10. Taking me out without the kids more – maybe just for a ride.
  11. Including me in the things he does.
  12. Trying to understand me.
  13. Getting involved with things I enjoy doing.
  14. Just holding me in his arms and talking to me.
  15. Being tender – using kind, tender words.
  16. Helping in the discipline of the children.
  17. Saying little words of caring compliments and appreciation.
  18. Accepting me just as I am.
  19. Spending more time with the family.
  20. Making me feel like a woman.

The last list I found was at http://www.providencecommunitychurch.net and is titled 101 Ways a Husband May Express
Love to His Wife Or, How to Convince Your Wife You Love Her
by WAYNE MACK.

You may express love to your wife by:

1. Telling her you love her frequently.

2. Giving her a regular amount of money to spend in any way she chooses.

3. Leading family devotions regularly.

4. Smiling and being cheerful when you come home from work.

5. Helping her wash and dry the dishes at least twice a week.

6. Taking care of the children for at least three hours every week so that she has free time to do whatever she wants.

7. Taking her out for dinner or to do some fun thing at least once a week.

8. Doing the “fix-it” jobs she wants done around the house.

9. Greeting her when you come home with a smile, a hug, a kiss, and an, “Am I glad to see you. I really missed you today.”

10. Giving her a lingering kiss.

11. Patting her on the shoulder or fanny or holding her hand or caressing her frequently.

12. Being willing to talk to her about her concerns and not belittling her for having those concerns.

13. Looking at her with an adoring expression.

14. Sitting close to her.

15. Rubbing her back or…

16. Shaving or taking a bath or brushing your teeth before you have sex.

17. Wearing her favorite after-shave lotion.

18. Writing love notes or letters to her.

19. Letting her know you appreciate her and what you appreciate about her. Do this often and for things that are sometimes taken for granted.

20. Doing the dishes while she relaxes or takes a bubble bath.

21. Fulfilling her implied or unspoken desires and wishes as well as the specific requests she makes of you. Anticipate what she might desire and surprise her by doing it before she asks.

22. Participating in her hobbies and recreational preferences enthusiastically; including her in yours.

23. Seeking to set a good example before the children.

24. Talking about her favorably to the children when she can hear you and when she cannot.

25. Bragging about her good points as a wife and in every other area to others; letting her know you are proud to have her as your wife.

26. Maintaining your own spiritual life through Bible study, prayer, regular church attendance and fellowship with God’s people.

27. Handling your affairs decently and in order; structuring your time and using it wisely.

28. Making plans prayerfully and carefully.

29. Asking her advice when you have problems or decisions to make.

30. Following her advice unless to do so would violate biblical principles.

31. Fulfilling your responsibilities.

32. Being sober, but not somber, about life.

33. Having a realistic, biblical, positive attitude toward life.

34. Discussing plans with your wife before you make decisions, and when the plans are made, sharing them fully with your wife, giving reasons for making the decisions you did.

35. Thanking her in creative ways for her attempts to please you.

36. Asking forgiveness often and saying, “I was wrong and will try to change.”

37. Actually changing where and when you should.

38. Sharing your insights, reading, good experiences with her.

39. Planning for a mini-honeymoon, where the two of you can do whatever you want to do.

40. Giving a low whistle or some other expression of admiration when she wears a new dress or your favorite negligee.

41. Gently brushing her leg under the table.

42. Being reasonably happy to go shopping with her.

43. Relating what happened at work or whatever you did apart from her.

44. Reminiscing about the early days of your marriage.

45. Expressing appreciation for her parents and relatives.

46. Taking her out to breakfast.

47. Agreeing with her about getting a new dress or some other item.

48. Thanking her when she supports your decisions and cooperates enthusiastically. Especially make it a matter of celebration when she supports and helps enthusiastically at times when you know she doesn’t fully agree.

49. Asking her to have sexual relations with you and seeking to be especially solicitous of her desires. Express gratitude when she tries to please you.

50. Buying gifts for her.

51. Remembering anniversaries and other events that are special to her.

52. Watching the TV program or going where she wants to go instead of doing what you want to do. Do it cheerfully and enthusiastically.

53. Being cooperative and appreciative when she holds you, caresses or kisses you.

54. Being cooperative when she tries to arouse you and desires to have sexual relations. Never make fun of her for expressing her desires.

55. Running errands gladly.

56. Pampering her and making a fuss over her.

57. Being willing to see things from her point of view.

58. Being lovingly honest with her. No backdoor messages. No withholding of the truth that may hinder your present or future relationship.

59. Indicating that you want to be alone with her and talk or just lie in each other’s arms.

60. Refusing to “cop out” or “blow up” or attack or shift blame or withdraw or exaggerate when she seeks to make constructive suggestions or discuss problems.

61. Giving her your undivided attention when she wants to talk.

62. Cheerfully staying up until ___ o’clock to solve a problem or share her burdens.

63. Getting up in the middle of the night to take care of the children so that she may continue to sleep.

64. Holding her close while expressing tangible and vocal love when she is hurt, discouraged, weary or burdened.

65. Planning vacations and trips with her.

66. Thanking God for her by name when the two of you pray aloud together.

67. Sometimes helping her yourself instead of telling the children to “help mommy.”

68. Being eager to share a good joke or some other interesting information you have learned.

69. Joining with her in a team ministry in the church.

70. Doing a Bible study or research project together.

71. Establishing a family budget.

72. Keeping yourself attractive and clean.

73. Being cooperative and helpful as a co-host when you have people in for dinner or fellowship.

74. Asking her to pray with you about something.

75. Spending time with the children in play, study, and communication.

76. Acknowledging that there are some specific areas or ways in which you need to improve.

77. Refusing to disagree with her in the presence of others.

78. Cooperating with her in establishing family goals and then in fulfilling them.

79. Being available and eager to fulfill her desires whenever and wherever possible and proper.

80. Beginning each day with cheerfulness and tangible expressions of affection.

81. Planning to spend some time alone with her for sharing and communicating every day.

82. Remembering to tell her when you must work late.

83. Refusing to work late on a regular basis.

84. Taking care of the yard work properly.

85. Helping the children with their homework.

86. Refusing to compare her unfavorably with other people.

87. Handling money wisely.

88. Not allowing work, church, or recreational activities to keep you from fulfilling marriage or family responsibilities.

89. Trying to find things to do with her.

90. Being willing to go out or stay home with her.

91. Being polite, courteous, and mannerly with her.

92. Refusing to be overly dependent on your parents or friends.

93. Developing mutual friends.

94. Providing adequate hospitalization insurance.

95. Trying to the level of your ability to provide housing and some support for your family in case you should die or become handicapped.

96. Being especially helpful and solicitous when she is not feeling well.

97. Being on time.

98. Going to P.T.A. with her.

99. Letting her sleep in once in a while by getting the children breakfast and, if possible, off to school.

100. Frequently yielding to her desires unless to do so would be sinful.

101. Dream up an idea of your own.

So, that is 353 ways to love your wife. Let’s see if I can come up with 12 more ways so that we can get to 365 ways to make your wife feel loved.

  1. Ask her how to load the dishwasher correctly and help her with this chore.
  2. Make sure that she catches you watching her admiringly at times when she least expects it.
  3. Even when it seems she may be going a little overboard about something, jump in and do your best to help her.
  4. Protect her in her relationships, time, and commitments.
  5. Try understanding the different types of laundry to be done and do not be afraid to ask her before messing up.
  6. She loves to see you spending quality, fun time with the kids.
  7. Always try to stand by her and reinforce her instruction to the kids.
  8. Make sure that she can trust you with the money and finances.
  9. Make taking your family to church a priority and promoting that training as important as school.
  10. Always have a shoulder to lean on or cuddle on to let her relax and feel safe.
  11. With work taking up so much time, sometimes family needs to be the priority over yard work and the honey-do list.
  12. Make a point of grooming yourself the way that she likes even if it is just the two of you.

So, there we have it. 365 ways to make our wife feel loved.